Monthly Archives: June 2019
Hold the balance
I can smell the sea
in the night air
It takes me back
reminds me of times
I loved deeply
as if not having a dog is cutting off part of who I am
the good is gone
the love is fading
and I am ill tempered, bitter
without something good to hold the balance.
I suppose love heals us
but it takes courage
to do that
facing our worst fears
know what it is to be destroyed
struggle to find a way back
out from the darkness.
Soul work
Watching you dismantle your life
sell or give everything away
setting up
to move away
fills me with a kind of wonder and a sadness
money can’t buy you happiness
if we aren’t content within ourselves
nothing, no one and nowhere can fill that void.
I know.
When I moved
I thought I could out run my past
I thought I could become
a version of myself everyone expected to see
I suppose I looked like a catch
certainly had men making all sorts of offers
in that small town
but when it came right down to it
I realized
I couldn’t live a lie
I couldn’t buy into something and someone I wasn’t
no matter how strong
someone else’s traditions and family structure
It would never be enough to hold me.
I remember staring at the 50mg/ml cassette of dilaudid
we as a team
left sitting on the med room counter for hours
just sitting knowing
how far we each have sunk
no one is drawn to working with the dying
unless they understand the darkness
and everyone had their stories
everyone had their reasons to want
an exit.
I remember leaving
burnt out
broken
taking years to recover
knowing nothing
save I had to dismantle my life
in order to
like the pheonix, rise
from the cold ash
of all I used to be
to remake me
to become a healed, whole version
the truer version of myself
and I look at you
preparing to live an ocean away
knowing full well
you need time and space to mature
time and space to learn those lessons for yourself
perhaps then I should simply be flattered that
your girlfriends over the last year have all been
nurses
as if you know what you need to do
and as if everything I had said
the discussions we had
each picking up where the last left off
regardless of the time
have built one upon the other and sunk in.
See I remember thinking the day before I met you
exactly what I’d want in a man if I were to
do there stereotypical thing
when you appeared the very next day.
So now I suppose I am watching
painfully
as you do your soul work
knowing full well there is no short cut,
may you find all you are looking for out there.
Heartbreak moments
Heartbreak moment
run into the regular crew
it hurts
part of my life that used to be….
The daschund took off running
thinking he saw his buddy last night apparently
Heartbreak moment.
I remember when my dog used to do that
thinking he saw Lizette his first owner
heartbreak moments
life is full of them.
Prepping for a sea of new admissions
the tube feed life we keep on borrowed time
the dying URI, UTI, CHF they sent in for IV abx – thought she’d die with us instead, a costly medical onslaught for the same
amid the tsunami of month end paperwork
implementing the new ipad charting system
wonder sometimes
what gets done around here
then I realize we are all slowly drowning
the flood waters keep rising
we adapt
keep treading water
getting fitter, stronger, faster, more efficient
but it will never be quite enough
as we get tired.
Sometimes there is nothing to do
but float there in starfish…
staring out the window at the night
listening to the rain
knowing water is becomming ever more precious
surviving amid the dying.
My coping mechanism is
that dark sicker sense of humour
and taking to swearing at work.
Never set out to be this kind of nurse
never set out to be this kind of professional
it never even crossed my mind my life
would be like this.
Single
got the career
gone is the dog
never thought I’d by the fitness nerd,
never though I’d ever be vegetarian either
yet here I am.
Never crossed my mind I’d get so deeply hurt at work
yet here I am
working in pain
rehabbing slow
new physio all the time.
never thought I’d have friends and lover
yet not have a relationship in the true sense of the word.
Everything I have become
has been born of a need to survive
Everything I am
has been learned to cope.
Danger
courage
stress
humour
aloof
passionate
intelligent
but making incredibly stupid choices.
Old soul
new heart
old school
modern mind
Deeply conservative in some ways
highly liberal in others
I am full of contradictions
I am nothing I imagined I’d be
yet I am
living this way
If I didn’t like
I’d have changed.
Sam Feldt ft. Jeremy Renner – Heaven (Don’t Have a Name)
Summer rain
The air is damp
you can feel the rain
that has been soaked into the ground
quenching a thirst nothing else can take the place of.
We joke around
like old times
the things I do that will always get to you…
At least we still have the capacity to dissolve into laughter
This cooling off
is welcome from the dry hot endless sun.
I spend too much time thinking
how easy it is to slide back into
the way we were over the years
even if it comes in guarded moments these days…
My love
there will never be a time
I won’t come running when something is truly wrong
yet we can’t trust
that is clear
when you look at me
some part of you fears me
it is a fear that runs deep
carves back into a past
I had no part in creating
yet it lingers….
You create ways and reasons
to force space between us
If I say my life is better
for having set out on my own?
Having a lover who is
for all my anger at the time
a younger, fitter version of you…
Yet I keep that part of my life
controlled, compartmentalized.
Never to let my guard down again
never to lose the life I made
what I poured so much of my time and energy into
Home. That is what I felt I had with you.
Do you hate me for that?
Did I take away you independence?
Did I break down your walls
and it terrified you?
Enough
You had to find someone who dumped you weeks later
as you knew she would
you picked her for that.
The wreckage of life
and I remember the gut wrenching shock
the flood of tears
how I sunk so much energy into academics
into work
into working out
into trying to reclaim myself, rebuild who I was
away from you.
So these days forgive me if I…
fall easily into old patterns
yet always with my guard up.
You broke my trust,
Give me some of that heartbreak back
it will keep me sane, prevent me from making
old mistakes.
No one has taken your place
I haven’t run out and gotten a new partner
I can’t bring myself to share
any large portion of my life
with anyone
like I used to with you….
I miss it though, often.
I miss knowing someone was there for me
in everyway,
I miss things I can’t name.